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Why Does My Facial Hair Bother You?

  Like an estimated five million other assigned-female-at-birth folks, I have polycystic ovarian syndrome, which means I rock increased facial and body hair at large. Facial hair, in particular, that a lot of folks seem bothered by. But why exactly is that? Why does my facial hair bother some folks so much? For the AFABs out there who want to find treatment to soften their symptoms, well, it can be hard — especially if you’re fat. As a fat human, I went through three different doctors when attempting to get a legitimate diagnosis and treatment, and faced: A male physician who wrote down “PCOS” on a piece of paper and told me to Google it and lose weight, a doctor who said birth control was my only option, and another who made me describe to her in detail what I “thought PCOS was” before she would even talk to me about it. Because I’m transmasculine, some of PCOS’s most common symptoms are a bonus for me rather than a problem, as they edge me toward a more masculine presentation. I ...
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The Best Age Gap Relationship Advice, According To Dating Experts

  Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds. Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas. Jay-Z and Beyoncé. George and Amal Clooney. Apart from being Hollywood icons, these A-list couples are known for partnering with people significantly outside of their age bracket. For these celebrities, age is really just a number. Although these famous relationships seem to be working, there is often stigma attached to big age differences, and people can be quick to stereotype. That said, if you’re dating someone much younger or older than you, age gap relationship advice from experts can help. According to Dr. Sarah Hill, psychologist and professor of sexual psychology at Texas Christian University, age gap relationships may feel unique, but they’re actually just like any other pairing out there — with a few extra considerations. After studying age gap couples, Hill says there aren’t any special “rules” about dating someone with a significant age difference. “Like all good relationships, healthy age gap relationshi...

8 Surprising Places You Never Knew Were Erogenous Zones On Men

When we think about places men get turned on, our brain immediately goes to the penis. And with the entire penis ― glans, shaft, and all ― full of nerve endings that make even the slightest touch feel, well, euphoric, it’s easy to think that it might be the only place where people with penises can feel enough pleasure to be truly turned on. But that isn’t the case. Just as it is with our bodies, there are more than a few places that can be major turn-ons for guys. "Erogenous zones vary from person to person, so there are no sure-fire hot spots," Jess O’Reilly, PhD., host of the @SexWithDrJess podcast, tells Bustle. "The best way to find out what your partner likes is to ask them — and experiment with different touch techniques, as they may have undiscovered pathways to pleasure." Not all people with penises are men (just like not all people with breasts and clitorises are women), but if your partner has a penis or any of these erogenous zones, it's helpful to le...

9 Things That Happen To Your Body When You Don’t Have Sex For A While

  If you're going through a period of sexual abstinence, then beware. Your vagina is going to grow cobwebs, tumbleweeds will roll across your pelvic floor, and nobody will be able to get into your intimate bits again without a crowbar and a sacrificial goat. Oh wait, except none of that is true. There are some physical consequences of going a while without sex, but most of them are results of not getting the health benefits that sex can offer. It sucks, I know, but you are not going to freeze up, grow a new hymen, become incapable of ever going near another person's sexual organs again, or drop dead unexpectedly of sexual frustration. Lifelong celibacy is a different prospect than experiencing sex and then stopping it. (Yes, scientists do study celibate people: The Nun Study, which looks at the health of a 600-strong group of American nuns, has been ongoing since 1986.) If you've had sex before and now you aren't, the impacts go beyond a constant urge to do deeds with a...

I Took My Wheelchair-Bound Grandpa to Prom After He Raised Me Alone – When a Classmate Made Fun of Him, What He Said into the Mic Made the Whole Gym Go Silent

  My grandfather became my entire world after I lost my parents when I was just a year old. Seventeen years later, I pushed his wheelchair through the doors of my prom. One girl who had never been kind to me had plenty to say about that. When Grandpa spoke, the whole room held its breath. I was just over a year old when flames tore through our house. I don't remember it, of course. Everything I know comes from the stories Grandpa and the neighbors told me later: it started with an electrical fault in the middle of the night. There was no warning. My parents didn't make it out. I was just over a year old when flames tore through our house. The neighbors were on the lawn in their pajamas, watching the windows glow orange, and somebody was screaming that the baby was still inside. My grandpa, already 67 years old, went back in. He came out through the smoke, coughing so hard he couldn't stand, with me wrapped in a blanket against his chest. The paramedics later told him he sho...

Oscars slammed for ‘rude’ move with K-Pop Demon Hunters

  The 2026 Oscars were not without their controversies. Some viewers were unhappy, particularly with how some of the award recipients were treated on stage. Keep reading to know more. The Netflix animated film, K-Pop Demon Hunters, was perhaps one of the biggest hits of last year. The song “Golden” from the film was nominated for Best Score at the 2026 Oscars and won. The song, which has been a massive hit, won the 2026 award for Best Score. The win, however, was overshadowed by how viewers perceived the recipients of the award were treated on stage, with their speech being cut off. Kim Eun-jae (known as Ejae) gave an emotional speech about how she grew up loving K-Pop and was looked at unkindly for it; however, now not only is K-Pop incredibly popular, but she ended up winning an Oscar for it. When songwriter Yu-Han Lee began speaking, his portion was cut off, with Ejae motioning for more time with his hands but being ignored as the ceremony moved on. One person wrote on X, “The A...

My Mom Wore the Same Ragged Coat for Thirty Winters – After Her Funeral, I Checked the Pockets and Fell to My Knees

My mom wore the same ragged coat for 30 winters, and I spent most of my life being embarrassed by it. After her funeral, I finally reached into the pockets, and what I found inside made me realize I'd been ashamed of the wrong thing all along. My name is Jimmy. I'm 36 years old, and I spent most of my childhood wishing my mother owned a different coat. Charcoal gray wool, thinning at the elbows, pilled at the cuffs, with two mismatched buttons she'd sewn on over the years. I hated everything about it. I spent most of my childhood wishing my mother owned a different coat. When I was 14, I asked her to drop me off a block away from school so my friends wouldn't see the patches. She just smiled that tired smile. "It keeps the cold out, baby. That's all that matters." I told myself I'd buy her something better one day. And I did. When I landed my first job as an architect, I bought her a beautiful cashmere trench coat. It was elegant and expensive... the k...